Is your sex drive normal?

last updated on
June 16, 2023
by
Alisa Vitti

Do you feel like you’re in the mood for a few days, then not so much the rest of the month?

Or maybe you rarely get the impulse and just figure, “Oh well! I guess I’ll live without sex”?If this is happening, and you’re also under the age of 45, then you are not experiencing the sex drive nature intended!And to my 45+ ladies – have no fear, it can get better for you, too!This topic is so important to me because I know it affects so much more than the time you spend in bed. Your sex drive affects your vitality, fertility, creative power, and experience of a pleasure-full life. A healthy sex life has amazing hormone-balancing power and health benefits as well. Did you know that orgasms have a whole lot of benefits - from boosting your fertility, to regulating your cycle, to increasing the strength of your immunity?Why would you miss out on all that?Let’s look at why you might be having a less-than-ideal libido? A few underlying causes could be plaguing you:

  1. High estrogen. Of course it's natural and biochemically appropriate to have ups and downs with estrogen throughout your cycle. But if your liver and digestive system are not operating ideally, you won’t be clearing out the excess estrogen efficiently which will result in much higher levels of circulating estrogen than is needed. This is a no-no for your libido. This is also called estrogen dominance or estrogen overload.
  2. Fried adrenals. Oh the poor little adrenal glands that seem to take the brunt of our stress-heavy modern lifestyle! You’ve probably heard it from us before, but these powerhouse glands are responsible for the output of your stress hormones and most of your testosterone, which is where that desire for sex comes from. Increased output of stress hormones means decreased output of juicy sex hormones. You do the math.
  3. Medications and Birth Control Pill. If you’re on the pill, anti-depressants, or other medication, this is something important to consider when it comes to your sex drive and your hormonal balance, as very often a side-effect is the decrease in sexual desire. We encourage you to talk to your doctor and other practitioners to find the right kind of support and possibly wean off what is not necessary. The birth control pill can lower your libido and impact your relationship in many negative ways. The affect of the pill on your sex drive can continue once you come off unless you support your body to make its own hormones again. Anti-depressants are over-prescribed and not always the best treatment for women’s feelings of depression.

What’s the recipe for a “normal” sex drive?

If you’ve identified why this may be happening, now it’s time take action on the ways you can significantly improve your sex drive and energy.The best way to boost your low sex drive is with a combination of food and supplements. Food as the foundation and supplements as a super-charger. Once you’re libido is back to the level it can be for all women, then you can start to see how your desire for sex changes throughout your cycle and actually Cycle-Sync your sex life for improved intimacy and more orgasms.When it comes to food, you need to focus on increasing testosterone-boosting ingredients in your every meal. Tailoring which of these well-research aphrodisiacs you eat to your cycle phase is going to increase the benefits and speed up the libido boost. There are also simple lifestyle hacks you use to change how and what you eat and drink so you’re avoiding estrogen overload and nourishing those important adrenals.Supplements are there to super-charge your efforts - I recommend maca root powder, plus Rhodiola, Magnesium, EFAs, and Zinc. These target your body’s core needs and will bring you back into hormonal balance.After 3 months of committing to these foods and supplements, I am sure you will feel sexier. Take a look at how you approach and think about sex and your relationship as a whole. Sometimes a low libido can be a sign that something is awry in your relationship. I’ve been Cycle-Syncing my marriage for years and highly recommend it as a way to increase intimacy, passion, communication, and reach those #relationshipgoals.With the MyFLO app I’ve made it super easy for you to do this for yourself. You get tips and advice on the best time in your cycle to talk something out, have a date night, go on an adventure, try something new in the bedroom, or spend some time apart. Plus you can request that your partner is sent automatic updates via email about where you are at in your cycle that are full of tips and advice on how to treat you right and support you - I call it the Partner Sync option.Always remember, that once you have the right information about how your body really works, you can start making health choices that finally start to work for you! You can do this – the science of your body is on your side!To your FLO,Alisa

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