Why you should stop using your vibrator

Get my guide - The 5 C’s of Self-Pleasure

Fifty Shades of Grey the movie is about to drop. It’s gonna be interesting! Regardless of the quality of the film, anything that helps women get in touch with their pleasure and turns them on is fantastic.

If you find yourself hormonally imbalanced plus busy, and therefore relying on your vibrator to get the job done fast, so to speak, you may be robbing your body of a key hormone balancing opportunity.

Doing self-pleasure correctly, however, will restore regular cycles, clear your skin and create an overall healthier hormonal balance.

‍Tweet: Orgasm balances hormones!

‍Here’s the deal - the problem with vibrators is that they bypass the plateau phase of orgasm.

The plateau or orgasmic phase is the continuation of your initial arousal, before you climax. The longer the plateau the more nitric oxide and oxytocin your body produces. This has healing benefits for the whole endocrine system and advantages include a more regular cycle, clearer skin and increased immunity. Here I share more about how getting hot and heavy is good for your health.

A vibrator sends you quickly to climax, sure, but you’re missing out on a lot of the goodness of a full orgasmic experience. You also might find you have that “fried” feeling afterwards, meaning you can’t hope for multiple orgasms, and who doesn’t hope for those?!‍

Sexy Brain

‍It can seem daunting to give up the buzz.  You turn the device on and then immediately turn yourself on. When you commit to going device free, you have got to use your brain a bit to get the party started.

Reading erotica is a wonderful way for women to get in the mood and warm themselves up to receiving accessory-free pleasure.  Take a wander around Literotica.com where you can find free fantasy tales of all different genres.  You may even find your new Fifty Shades-style favorite there!

Feeding your Orgasm

If you’ve been having trouble reaching climax or wanting to even try, you’ll first need to rebalance your progesterone, estrogen and testosterone levels. This will help to get all the neurochemicals involved in your arousal buzzing.The best way to do this is with food - healthy fats like avocados, nuts and seeds especially - plus a daily supplement of vitamin C with bioflavonoids and ashwagandha. Read more about my eating strategies for improving your sex drive here.Tweet: Avocados make me hot ;)

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‍Pleasure Research

‍Investigate some new strategies from some sexperts! Three favorites on my bookshelf:

‍The Emergence of the Sensual WomanMama Gena’s School of Womanly ArtsThe Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm

The 5 C’s of self-pleasure:

Getting handy gives you way more hormonal bang for your pleasure! Start with 30 minutes once a week and build from there.

1. Center - Do what you need to do to feel calm and centered - light candles, draw a hot bath, change to fresh sheets on the bed, play music...whatever you like.
2. Circle - avoid your nipples, areolae and clitoris for the first fifteen minutes. Stimulate your inner thighs, hips, innerarms, abdomen and upper chest with your hands.
3. Clitoris -  Use Aloecadabra on your clitoris. Take time to experience the plateau phase and create a building orgasmic sensation instead of focusing on the climax. Stimulate your inner labia and areas around clitoris to see what works for you.
4. Climax -  When you feel you’re ready to climax, use your hands, or, this is the time to take out the vibrator and set it to the very lowest setting.
5. Calm -  Be sure to allow yourself a proper resolution phase. This means staying still and quiet for a few minutes after climax. Relax and put one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Breathe and just be with yourself for a while to soak in all those sensations.